How to seat divorced parents at a wedding
The most common seating question I get asked, and the one people are most embarrassed to ask. Here is what actually works.
Short answer, because this is usually all anyone wants:
| Table diameter | Comfortable | Tight |
|---|---|---|
| 4ft (122cm) | 6 | 8 |
| 5ft (152cm) | 8 | 10 |
| 5ft 6in (168cm) | 9 | 11 |
| 6ft (183cm) | 10 | 12 |
| 7ft (213cm) | 12 | 14 |
The 6ft round seating ten is the banqueting standard almost everywhere, and it is what a venue will quote you unless you ask otherwise.
The number that matters is table edge per person, not table area. Divide the circumference by the number of seats:
A 6ft round has a circumference of about 574cm. At ten guests that is 57cm each — just under standard, which is why ten at a 6ft is the number everyone lands on and nobody complains about.
More than people expect. Going from ten to eleven on a 6ft round drops each guest from 57cm to 52cm. That is the difference between reaching for your glass and apologising for reaching for your glass.
If you are one seat over, it is almost always better to add a table than to squeeze every existing one. A room of eleven-seat tables feels crowded everywhere; a room with one extra table feels normal.
Do not measure the tables. Measure the tables plus the space around them, which is the mistake that makes a room feel packed when the arithmetic said it was fine.
Per 6ft round, allow a footprint of roughly 3m × 3m. That covers the table, chairs pulled out, and enough room for someone to walk behind a seated guest without asking them to move.
Then subtract the dance floor, the band, the bar, the cake table and the gift table before you start placing anything. Those go in first, not last, because they cannot move and tables can.
Rounds are better for conversation — everyone can see everyone, and nobody is stranded at an end. Long tables seat more people per square metre and photograph better. Most rooms end up with a mix: long tables where the room is narrow, rounds where it is wide.
One thing worth knowing: on a round table of ten, a guest can comfortably talk to about four people all evening. On a long table they can talk to three. If you are seating someone who knows nobody, a round gives them a better night.
Eight comfortably, ten at a squeeze. A 5ft (152cm) round gives about 60cm of table edge per person at eight, which is the standard comfortable place setting.
Ten comfortably, twelve at a squeeze. A 6ft (183cm) round is the most common banqueting table and ten is what most venues will quote you.
About 60cm (24 inches) of table edge for a comfortable place setting, and 75cm for a generous one. Below 50cm guests are touching elbows.
The most common seating question I get asked, and the one people are most embarrassed to ask. Here is what actually works.
The traditional order, why it exists, and the four situations where following it will cause you more trouble than breaking it.